Todays the day

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about my birthday (you can read it here ) and how it really is just another normal day  (sad but true,well in my case anyway)

The big day has arrived and it really is no different. There’s still mountains of ironing and washing to get through bottles to be sterilized and bums to be wiped. Payday isn’t till tomorrow so there isn’t even any cake.

It’s really made me think back to my younger days when birthdays were a thing to be celebrated. You would literally count down to that special day and plan every little detail of your night out meticulously. I honestly believe that once you get past 30 you start to wish you could take the years back instead of forward.

Is it a parenting thing that makes me not really care about the day I was born as much and are there others out there like me. So I decided to ask the blogging community what they do to celebrate (or if they don’t) their birthdays.

Heres a selection of my favorite answers, I’ve also included links back to their blogs. If you’re anything like me you love finding new blogs to follow. There really is nothing like spreading a little blogging cheer:

 

Sarah at Whimsical Mumblings:

My birthday is the day before my little girls. I feel birthdays as a parent are no longer important, maybe even forgotten about, but that’s ok. It’s all about making sure your little ones have a special, memorable birthday instead.

http://www.whimsicalmumblings.co.uk/

Jo at Miracle Max:

This year I was lucky enough to be taken to a spa for the night with my husband. Much needed being new parents to a 4 month baby boy.

http://miraclemax.co.uk/

Alison at Being a mummy with me

I used to get quite sad around birthday time as I have a chronic illness and it always used to make me think “another year ill” but my little girl (7) makes a big fuss of my birthdays & gets as excited about them as she does for her own! I love the homemade stuff she makes me which always makes it really special.

http://beingamummywithme.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1

Mo at Adventures of a novice mum

My birthdays as a parent is not much different from my pre-parent birthdays in recent years; with the exception that I’m more prone to forget it’s my birthday until someone reminds me. It’s fun hearing my toddler singing ‘happy birthday’ to me; I suppose in that regard it’s better, because we have lots of giggles with it. I’m not inclined to do anything tangibly special – life doesn’t stop, and it’s usually a work day for me – but this might change as my child gets older and engages with birthdays more. I also don’t expect any acknowledgement of it from anyone, but my husband usually gets me something, which is nice.

http://adventuresofanovicemum.co.uk/

I absolutely had to include this last one. A birthday at the tip, it sounds like something my hubby would do:

Amanda at The Family Patch

My favourite birthday story is how my husband took me to the tip for my 30th birthday… I kid you not, it was my first day off in months and I wanted to clear the house and so we went to the tip after dropping O off at nursery, but got there an hour before it opened and sat in the car outside the tip for a whole hour first thing on my first day as a 30 year old. We then went to have a birthday lunch somewhere, which turned out to be closed, so my husband was about to give up and take me home but I sulked and we ended up driving to another town on an impromptu “your birthday has kinda sucked so far, let’s make it awesome” moment 🙂

http://www.thefamilypatch.com/

This little exercise has made me feel a little better about not really being fussed about celebrating the day I was born.

It seems the general consensus is that life after children is mainly about the children but that the odd surprise on your birthday is lovely (hubby take note). 

I also long for when the boys are old enough to really get into birthdays whether it be there own or ours. I cant wait for homemade cards and gifts. 

Do you have any birthday stories either pre children or after.

Do you find the older you get the less inclined you are to go all out or has nothing changed for you? 

 

 

 

 


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Birthdays

In a few weeks its my birthday. Another year older and another year wiser eh.

I dont really celebrate my birthday to me its just another day. If I arrange it I may go out for dinner with the hubby .we really know howcto live it up 🙂

What I would really love as a birthday treat is a whole day of doing nothing. No feeds or chaging nappies or dealing with tantruming toddlers just a whole day for me to do naff all. Lets be honest not going to  happen is it. We mummys dont get days off not even on the day we were born.

As a young girl I loved my birthday it was something to look forward to every year. I pretty much wished my life away. I cant wait to be 13,16,18 21 you get the drift, now I wish I could turn the clock back.

Sadly we dont own a time turner so we must live in the now.

How do you celebrate your birthday or like me do you just pass it by. I’d love to hear your throughts on birthdays.

Diary of an imperfect mum

Mummas time

As I lie here still in my pit at 8 am (almost unheard of in this house) with the toddler playing in his room and the baby making grunting pug noises in his sleep next to me, really makes me feel like for once I’m winning (it wont last)

I’m hoping Max will get bored of playing and take himself back to bed. Somehow I doubt that will happen. I give it 5 more minutes before his screaming mummmmmm at the top of his lungs (bloody toddlers)

I feel a smidgen guilty that im spending this time blogging from bed. I really should be sorting out the babes next bottle or getting Max dressed.Isnt it crazy feeling bad doing something for myself.My whole life is about my family yet I begrudge myself 20 minutes to myself. Thats crazy talk right there sometimes us mummas need to take some time out. Im pretty sure the hubby doesn’t feel guilty when hes playing xbox. That’s men for you they just opeeate differently to us ladies. 

Fast forward 5 minutes

Ok party times over as I dash downstairs to sort out Kai’s bottle. He really will be screaming for it soon and thats just not a great way to start our saturday. I had to leg it past Max at the gate holding every teddy he has in his arms and see his eyes light up at the prospect of freedom. Sorry son one child at a time.

So that was my weekend lie in. Oh how times change when you have kids. We’ve swapped lie ins and naps for screaming babes,dirty nappies and sleepless nights. 

Hands up who else managed an extra 10 mins in bed and will you be paying for it later.  

First night at fat club 

Ok i should probably stop calling it fat club but i just cant help it. Slimming world makes me think of little britan “dust anyone “.

In all seriousness i really want to shift this mum tum .The plan is to give it 6 months and see where we are then. I know il start to lose weight by then anyway getting weighed should hopefully just give me the extra push. 

Im quite pleased i went it wasnt as bad as i throught it would be. Im not planning to live and die by the plan im going to use it more as a guide.

Im really looking forward to getting some excercise in. Itl be slow going i suspect. I recently went on a trampoline with Max and i honestly was scared my uterus was goibg to fall out or that my bladder would give way.

Really should start doing those pelvic excercises now. 

This is what i hope to look like when excercising. Haha dream on 🙂

Winning …. for now

Were haveing a good 5 minutes in the max and kai household. 

Max is eating dinner (potato hotpot and sausages)in his highchair. I got him a booster seat for the big table but i just need a peaceful 10 minutes right now and kais happily bouncing away in his bouncer. 

Just as i took the pic max put the dinner bowl on his head (he thinks its a hat). 

That gives me about 10 minutes to drink the tea ive been trying to make for the past hour. 

Motherhood … it changes you 

Its corny and everyone says it but motherhood has really changed me as a person. 

I dont care to go out and get wankered anymore or have silly dramas with people (thou its fun to read about other peoples drama on facebook). 

All i care about is my family ,namely my boys.As long as im doing right by them is all that matters to me full stop. 

If this makes me seem boring or miserable then tough luck. For once in my life I quite like the person I am and the path im on the things I’ve achieved. Namely raising 2 kids. It may seem mundane to some but I really have found my vocation in motherhood. I never really knew where I fit in this world but now I do. 

And for that I absloutley will not apologise for. 

How has motherhood changed you and do you think its for the better or the worse?

Night feeds 

One of the shitest parts of having a newborn has to be the night feeds (well for me it is anyway). Kai is 6 weeks now and waking on average every 3 hours for a feed. Its draining and i often find myself thinking jeez im too old for this shit lol 

Im a bit naughty il pop kai over my shoulder to wind him then before i know it were both snoozing. I cant help it he loves a snuggle. I know its really dangourous but i dont even feel myself drifting off to sleep. Touch wood i havent droped him yet 🙂

I started a tv series on prime calles Ray Donovon , i totally recomend it its been really good so far. 

Anyway its friday now which means my other half can help with the feeds. Im off to Bedfordshire:)