Todays the day

A few weeks ago I wrote a post about my birthday (you can read it here ) and how it really is just another normal day  (sad but true,well in my case anyway)

The big day has arrived and it really is no different. There’s still mountains of ironing and washing to get through bottles to be sterilized and bums to be wiped. Payday isn’t till tomorrow so there isn’t even any cake.

It’s really made me think back to my younger days when birthdays were a thing to be celebrated. You would literally count down to that special day and plan every little detail of your night out meticulously. I honestly believe that once you get past 30 you start to wish you could take the years back instead of forward.

Is it a parenting thing that makes me not really care about the day I was born as much and are there others out there like me. So I decided to ask the blogging community what they do to celebrate (or if they don’t) their birthdays.

Heres a selection of my favorite answers, I’ve also included links back to their blogs. If you’re anything like me you love finding new blogs to follow. There really is nothing like spreading a little blogging cheer:

 

Sarah at Whimsical Mumblings:

My birthday is the day before my little girls. I feel birthdays as a parent are no longer important, maybe even forgotten about, but that’s ok. It’s all about making sure your little ones have a special, memorable birthday instead.

http://www.whimsicalmumblings.co.uk/

Jo at Miracle Max:

This year I was lucky enough to be taken to a spa for the night with my husband. Much needed being new parents to a 4 month baby boy.

http://miraclemax.co.uk/

Alison at Being a mummy with me

I used to get quite sad around birthday time as I have a chronic illness and it always used to make me think “another year ill” but my little girl (7) makes a big fuss of my birthdays & gets as excited about them as she does for her own! I love the homemade stuff she makes me which always makes it really special.

http://beingamummywithme.blogspot.co.uk/?m=1

Mo at Adventures of a novice mum

My birthdays as a parent is not much different from my pre-parent birthdays in recent years; with the exception that I’m more prone to forget it’s my birthday until someone reminds me. It’s fun hearing my toddler singing ‘happy birthday’ to me; I suppose in that regard it’s better, because we have lots of giggles with it. I’m not inclined to do anything tangibly special – life doesn’t stop, and it’s usually a work day for me – but this might change as my child gets older and engages with birthdays more. I also don’t expect any acknowledgement of it from anyone, but my husband usually gets me something, which is nice.

http://adventuresofanovicemum.co.uk/

I absolutely had to include this last one. A birthday at the tip, it sounds like something my hubby would do:

Amanda at The Family Patch

My favourite birthday story is how my husband took me to the tip for my 30th birthday… I kid you not, it was my first day off in months and I wanted to clear the house and so we went to the tip after dropping O off at nursery, but got there an hour before it opened and sat in the car outside the tip for a whole hour first thing on my first day as a 30 year old. We then went to have a birthday lunch somewhere, which turned out to be closed, so my husband was about to give up and take me home but I sulked and we ended up driving to another town on an impromptu “your birthday has kinda sucked so far, let’s make it awesome” moment 🙂

http://www.thefamilypatch.com/

This little exercise has made me feel a little better about not really being fussed about celebrating the day I was born.

It seems the general consensus is that life after children is mainly about the children but that the odd surprise on your birthday is lovely (hubby take note). 

I also long for when the boys are old enough to really get into birthdays whether it be there own or ours. I cant wait for homemade cards and gifts. 

Do you have any birthday stories either pre children or after.

Do you find the older you get the less inclined you are to go all out or has nothing changed for you? 

 

 

 

 


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Angelcare bath seat *review*

When Max was born we used a traditional baby bath to begin with. I don’t know about you but I found this to be a bit of a nightmare. It was so hard to hold the baby as well as give him a wash there just wernt enough hands. The throught of bathing him on my own made me come out in a deep sweat. I just didn’t know how I would manage it.

When I stumbled upon the Angel Care bath seat I honestly couldnt believe my luck. It was perfect just what we needed. The solution to arkward newborn bathing a complete hands free bath seat that we could actually use in the bath.

The base of the seat is made from a soft silicone type of materal (the prooer name is TPE material) ehich molds nicely to the shape of babys bum and back. It also soaks up the warmth from the water so baby doesnt feel cold.

The seat has a rubbery edging so it kind of sticks to the bottom of the bath (which is a godsend you really dont want the chair toppling ever). It has a max line in case your unsure how high to run the bath and comes with a hoop and a hook to stick it to the wall meaning storage isnt a problem.

The seat can be used from birth up to 6 months which is much longer thsn a baby bath. At 6 months Max was sitting up so we just put in him the bath without a seat.

You can buy the Angelcare bath seat from a lot of retailers now (including Mothercare). We purchased ours from Amazon it was ÂŁ25.00 if I remember correctly. The price is a little steep but we got a lot of use out of it. We’re using it again for baby number 2 so def getting our moneys worth.

I used it to keep Kai close while bathing Max.
I would absloutley recomend this seat. It’s  perfect for making life a bit easier.

*please note I was not sent the seat or paid to review this item. All opinions are my own *

According to Max it makes a pretty good seat as well.

Diary of an imperfect mum

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Motherhood … it changes you 

Its corny and everyone says it but motherhood has really changed me as a person. 

I dont care to go out and get wankered anymore or have silly dramas with people (thou its fun to read about other peoples drama on facebook). 

All i care about is my family ,namely my boys.As long as im doing right by them is all that matters to me full stop. 

If this makes me seem boring or miserable then tough luck. For once in my life I quite like the person I am and the path im on the things I’ve achieved. Namely raising 2 kids. It may seem mundane to some but I really have found my vocation in motherhood. I never really knew where I fit in this world but now I do. 

And for that I absloutley will not apologise for. 

How has motherhood changed you and do you think its for the better or the worse?

2 under 2

I’m slowly getting used to having 2 children as opposed to just the 1.

It’s not easy and there are days when I could quite happily just pull my hair out (especially when Max is having a epic tantrum and Kai is crying). So far we have all managed to survive and I really feel like i’m getting into the swing of things.

I was really worried when I was pregnant about how I would cope with 2 kids so young in age.

The secret for me is:

Be organised.

Most mornings I’m up before Max, Kai usually has a feed at around 5 am and Max likes to wake bright and early at 7am. This is a big difference to the 8 and 9 am starts we were getting in the winter (god damn you summertime  and your early sunrise) I pop Kai into the cot in his new room with ewan the sheep for company (more on him at a later date),9 times out of 10 he falls asleep which is great it means i can concentrate on getting Max dressed and ready for the day.I also believe that the little naps in his cot will do him good for when he goes in the nursery permanently (cannot wait for this day, love Kai but he is soooooo loud) .I get Max a clean nappy change of clothes and then we brush our teeth together. Back in his room he goes while I get myself and Kai ready. Im trying to make a point of giving Kai different clothes for the day and night, in this hot weather this proves challenging as he is happiest in just a vest.

Get out of the house.

Being cooped up all day doesn’t do well with the toddler. The days we have had indoors have by far been the worse to date. Getting out and about not only distracts Max but it also wears him out. It’s hard enough having to deal with night feeds again (every 3 hours so far) without having to settle Max as well. Try and plan out your week, go to the park see friends make the most of the good weather while it’s still nice.

Sleep when you can.

This one is much easier said than done. If you have a good support network then use it. I have the network but I don’t like depending on other people (unless its the hubby because hell I didn’t create these babies on my own). I’ve been going to bed at 8 or 9 pm during the week, Kai stays downstairs until Dans ready to go to bed. Often he’l do the 11 pm feed before he brings him up. At the weekend we take a feed each after 12 pm and often Danny will sort Max out for me in the morning. It’s hard and were both knackered but we know this time that this stage will not last forever.

 

So those are my main tips for surviving mummyhood with 2 toerags.

Mainly you just have to take each day as it comes.

Don’t be afraid to use the TV as a distraction for your older child if you need to. I also chuck Max in his room each morning for a nap, sometimes he naps,plays or just screams. Its just one of those things, Kai doesn’t get much time out of the chair when Max is around so it’s a necessary evil. My children are not like the cute pics you see of siblings showing nothing but love on facebook and instagram. Sometimes Max is very loving and sometimes he wants to throw toys at Kai’s head. Kai tends to have this look of pure worry when Max is around. Hopefully as he gets bigger he will be a bit less afraid of his big brother.

Do you have 2 or more under 2, what are your survival tips?

 

The things our kids do

Max and kai do so much everyday (well Kai not so much) and i always think il blog about that then i totally forget. 

So heres a quick update while i have the boys on my mind (weve just watched a scary film and i need a distraction before going to bed)

MAX

Max is nearly 22 months now and is thrning into a real cheeky toddler. Hes social skills are still fantastic,he interacts well with other children.Were going through the hello stage he just wants to befriend everyone its cute but i can see we will need to work hard on stranger danger when the time comes. 

Maxs speech is also excellant and he is getting good at recognising words from objects and not just mimicking what we say. 

Ive decided we will start to potty train in November just after his second birthday.  Were on holiday just after so i want to train him when we get back. Our friends gave us there old potty and we have been practising Max sitting on it.

Maxs build is super stocky now and he can be quite heavy footed  and clumsy.

The tantrums are still on another level,its probably made worse by the presence of his baby brother. 
KAI  

Kai’s 5 weeks old now,were starting to see him much more alert than in previous weeks. Hes given us a few sleepy smiles and giggles. Kai is now Eff (exclusivly formula fed- see what i did there) no more breastmilk for this bubba. He takes aboyt 4 oz every 3 ish hours and boy doys it take him a while to drink. I should prob look at changing the teat but I think hes just a lazy boy.

He seems to be loving hearing me sing (god help him) and when hes having a strop it seems to calm him down.  Last time i had him weighed he was 9 lb 12 but he feels heavier now so def packing on the pounds. 

Thats it for now. Today were having a family trip to Ikea , all about the fun we are 🙂

The end of our pumping journey

I really wanted to pump the amber necter for as long as I possibly could. 

Dont judge me but I’ve made the decision to stop. 

I came to this desicion based on a few things and they all sound selfish.

Having a newborn and a toddler is  time consuming as it is I find myself constantly needing to make choices. 

When both kids miraculously napped at the same time and when i should be sleeping or eating i was pumping. It just takes up too much time . We brought a pumping bra and in theroy that sounds awesome in reality it didnt really work out (thats another post for another time).
Then theres the demand issue. Kai is a baby led baby (he tells me when hes hungry by giving us cues) as he is feeding more I would struggle to keep up. I really need to pump every time he feeds and to be honest i dont have the time for that i was pumping 4 times a day and struggling.

Maybe if Kai has been my first born then things might have been different. 

I used the tommee tippee electric pump we used with Max. Although i found it to be a pile of shit i couldnt justify buying another one. We defiantly got our use out of it this time. 

So Kai has had 4 weeks of mainly breastmilk. 

I tried my best but now i need to focus on being the best mum i can be for both of my boys. 

Max Update

Can you believe I still don’t have my phone back. This is week 3, WEEK THREE I’m on the verge of a breakdown can you tell :).

Samsung have basically given up trying to fix the screen and have instead offered me a new one, which is great but ….. they have the most longest process of getting a new phone out. Its pretty ridiculous when you think we could just walk into a store and pick one up.I think it’s a case of poor communication between one department and another.

Being phoneless is driving me nuts.My whole life is on that device, which when you think about it is pretty sad. What did we do before smartphones and I have to say I don’t know. 

Don’t you feel liberated my husband asked me in week 1, no I feel lost was my honest answer. This morning I’ve decided to get on the PC and get a few posts out.I’ve worked hard on this blog over the year and I don’t want it all going to waste now.

So bare with me the posts will be a bit thin on the ground but once I get the beloved smartphone back you’ll be hearing much more from me ( yayyyy I hear you cheer).

I really want to do a post about Max. My blog started as homage to the mad one and how he has changed my life. He still is very much my main focus but what with baby number 2 on the way and a few rants sometimes his progress report slips to the wayside.

Max is 19 months now (amazes me how quickly time has flown) and a real cheeky chappy (chappy being a polite way of saying sod). He achieves so much each day. When your babies are little babies every new milestone seems so huge. The first smile, laugh,roll,crawl,walk everything is so momentous. Once they get a bit bigger the milestones are still just as a big deal but are slightly smaller if that makes sense (which i’m aware it probably doesn’t). Let’s break them down :

Walking :

As most of you know Max started walking at around 15 months. To some this is a little late but to us he walked exactly when he was supposed to. Were encouraging him to walk when we go out places (though this often takes ten times longer because he has a obsession with cars and window displays) he is the proud owner of his own set of reins. They really are the best invention although sometimes I do feel like i’m walking a dog. Recently he’s added running and jumping to the walking skill set which is always funny to watch.

Talking:

This child definitely takes after me in the respect that he is a chatterbox. He doesn’t stop talking.Easily 90% of the time we have no clue what he’s saying but we nod, smile and join in the conversation which seems to please him. When he makes noises we don’t make the noise back. The idea being we want to engage him with words not sounds. The word catalogue is getting pretty extensive the most recent being “apple” “Up and Down” “a ball” and ” goal”. Hes a prize mimicker and will try to repeat anything i ask him to.

Tantrums:

Sadly it’s not all fun and games in our house, the tantrums are still occurring. They do tend to change shape though. We’re seeing less head banging (which is nice for me) but we still have a lot of drop and roll. He is having tantrums at the drop of a hat. Mainly if you tell him now or try to take him away from something he was doing (like trying to get him to have his nappy changed when he’s playing). I try really hard not to be a mean shouty mum but sometimes its hard not to be. I try and catch his attention and lure him away from his toys. More often than not this doesn’t work and I resort to pick him up which is when all hell breaks loose. The tantrums are here to stay for a few years yet there just a part of kids growing up. Hormonal me feels a bit sad lately like the tantrums are my fault but sensible me knows in the back of my head that really they are not.

Overall Max is a good kid who has his moments.

In six weeks his life is going to change all over again and it makes me nervous that I can’t predict how he is going to adapt to that. We’re just going to have to roll with the punches on that one.